The Courage to Quit
© Mariah Burton Nelson
OxygenSports (WeSweat.com) February 2000
My friend Wilhelmina
Swenholt and I saw Any Given Sunday. We
expected the movie to be about football but
mostly it's about how difficult it is to respect
your own body when the team and coach and culture
want you to ignore your broken back or concussion
or herniated disk. "Suck it up," says
the coach, Al Pacino.
Wilhelmina and I did a
lot of sucking it up when we played college
basketball many years ago. We've got four sore
knees to prove it. The movie was on the second
floor of the theater, and afterward we limped
downstairs together, leaning on the railing. We
laughed, but it's really not too hilarious to be
permanently disabled as a result of playing
basketball.
Increasingly, I see
female basketball players doing what I did, only
in greater numbers. They're playing in pain until
they can't play anymore. Then they face another
sixty or so years of hobbling on undependable
legs.
You can spot these women
in any game. They're wearing knee braces. When I
see those braces, I cringe. You don't wear knee
braces unless your knees have already been badly
injured.
Rebecca Lobo recently
had reconstructive knee surgery for the second
time on the same knee. Tennessee's Kyra Elzy has
had two knee surgeries. Connecticut basketball
star Shea Ralph has had two knee surgeries. Katie
Smrcka-Duffy of Georgetown has had two knee
surgeries, two ankle surgeries, and back
problems.
Are these women sucking
it up? Is this a good thing? When football
players destroy their bodies in "the heat of
the battle," as it's so often called, no one
is surprised. I don't want us to get that inured
to female pain and injury. I don't want that to
be the legacy of the women's sports movement:
that we achieve equal opportunities to wound
ourselves in the name of winning, or getting rich
and famous, or pleasing the coach, or even
pleasing ourselves, which is why I played so
long. Basketball is almost too much fun.
Lobo declined my request
to discuss it. Three of Lobo's teammates also had
knee surgery in 1999. I asked a spokesperson at
the New York Liberty, Is that unusual or
worrisome?"
"Not at all,"
she said, adding that she did not want to be
named. "Kym Hampton, for example, was
plagued by knee trouble during the season, and it
hindered her minutes, so after the season, she's
having surgery to address the situation."
This is the situation
I'd like to address: A lot of women are becoming
disabled in the name of sport. Right before our
adoring eyes, as we sit there in the stands or at
home on our couches, cheering them on, these
women are falling down and sometimes breaking in
ways that can't necessarily be fixed.
Tammi Blackstone, a
senior at Drake, has congenitally misaligned
kneecaps. "It's basically bone on
bone," she told USA Today. She
receives injections of synthetic cartilage. She
wears a brace. She does physical therapy. She
applies ice. She had surgery last June but the
pain got worse. Walking hurts. But she keeps
playing basketball.
"She goes through
the pain for us," said her teammate Haley
Sames.
Is that a good reason to
grind bone on bone?
"I also want to be
a good role model," said Tammi. "I
don't want kids to see me quit just because my
knees are bad."
Quitting because one's
knees are bad makes a lot of sense. It makes even
more sense to quit before they get bad.
Becca Carter quit
playing basketball back in eighth grade, after
she tore the cartilage in her right knee. Now 17,
Becca competes in amateur junior surfing
tournaments. Her knee still aches, swells,
grinds, crunches, and pops, she says.
Surfing is "almost as hard on knees as
basketball," she admits. But what she
learned from her early knee injury, she says,
"is to listen to my body. It's a good thing
to push yourself, and sometimes you need to play
when you're a little bit hurt, but it's also good
to learn when to call it quits and just rest your
body.
Something sobering to
think about as the women's college basketball
season grinds and crunches and pops to a close.
Want to read
more about the courage to quit? Check out We Are
All Athletes
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